12 Steps to Get Over your Ex

 


1) As with all infatuations, first step is to admit it. You have to be completely honest about the situation, and be 100% determined to move on.

2) Cut them off....Completely.  Texting and calling them everyday isn't going to help, neither will pretending like your completely ok with being "Just Friends". I truly believe that if an ex couple can remain "good friends" either they were never in love with each other or they still are.   

"An ex breaking up with you and saying they still wanna be friends is like your mom saying your dog died but you can still keep it"

3) Take some time for yourself. Although you may want to rush back into another relationship, trust me it won't help you at all, as they will either constantly remind you of ur ex, or they will fail in comparasion causing you to miss ur ex even more.    

4) Realize missing them is a natural part of the process, but realize missing them doesnt have to equal tears. Instead make it a habit of telling your self that you were happy before them, and you will be happy after them. This to Shall pass.  

5) Don't keep all your feelings inside. It will drive you crazy. I recommend talking to someone you trust and telling them exactly how you feel. If you have no one you trust that much then simply write your feelings out in a private notebook. This is a method that I can say from experience works even better as going back and reading what you wrote helps when you start missing them again.

6) Don't turn to Alcohol for your problems. Although alcohol may make you feel better temporarily, it will make things much worse once you sober up. Remember Alcohol is a depressant not a miracle. 

7) Music helps, but can also slow down the process. Although you may want to listen to the depressing music that explains how your feeling, I suggest switching it to rebound songs instead of break up songs. For example Instead of listening to Ne-Yo "So Sick", Listen to Ne-Yo "Go On Girl". Instead of Usher "You got it bad" Listen to Usher "U don't have to call"...  

8) Get rid of anything that reminds you of them. Seriously everything. Cards you have hanging up, that shirt they bought you, their phone number (deleting it prevents the "Accidental" drunk text/call), their facebook. You dont have to throw the items away but store it away somewhere where its not available. EX. The closet doesnt work because you can just go open up the closet and get it.

9) Let go of any hatered feelings. Letting go and moving on means letting go of all feelings, good and bad.

10) Be realistic. You may always love a person, but it doesnt mean you cant move on and have a happy life. Theres a huge difference in Loving someone and Being in Love with someone.

11) Once you feel you are over your ex Move on. See new people. There are over 6 billion people on this earth.

12) Prepare for the encounter. Unless you run away to europe to hide, chances are one day you are probably going to run into your ex again. Thing is to remember it didnt work for a reason, and while being "just friends" might seem possible at the beginning, its only a matter of time before the feelings come back and then its back to step 1 all over again. It doesnt get any easier the 2nd or 3rd time.


Source: Personal Experience

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